Mindset and Focus: Twin superpowers to achieve the life you want

Who are you?

Who decided you’d be the way you are?

That you would have your favourite colour? Your favourite time of the day? Your favourite book?

Did you choose your job/career, or is it just something you ended up doing because it showed up?

What do you really want to do?

Why aren’t you doing it?

Who do you want to be?

A smoker? Non-smoker?

Fit or fat?

Lazy and unmotivated or self disciplined and enthusiastic?

Who are you?

Really, I mean it. Who the F are you? What makes you, you?

We go through life in a daze, day after day, same ole, same ole.

Why? When we want more. We all want more. I know you do, or you wouldn’t be reading this.

Half the time (most of the time) we don’t even know what it is that has us feeling dissatisfied. And when we do know, its usually something we do that we hate, that makes us feel bad.

Olivia Newton John has had cancer 3 times and every day throughout the day, she sings to herself. ‘I’m heathy, I’m strong.’ She’s successfully regained full health twice before, why not a third time. She says she’s lucky. How many other people would say that after their third cancer diagnosis?

What behaviours account for the majority of chronic diseases and premature deaths?

Smoking. Alcohol abuse. Unhealthy diet. Lack of exercise.

Why?

Because these four behaviours affect  the fundamental processes of life: breathing, drinking, eating and moving.

When we poison our bodies with any of those four, the impact is severe.

Why can’t we stop?

Because we have created an identity for ourselves where that behaviour is integrated, a foundation stone.

Every part of what you call you is created by your mindset.  Your personality, characteristics, abilities and skill levels, your body, your intellect, your emotional, mental, spiritual and physical being.

You’ve decided, because of what you experienced as a child and what was reinforced as an adult, that you will be this way. This is how you show up.

Want to change it?

Be prepared to pay.

If not in money then in blood, sweet, tears Effort!

Matthew McConaughey wanted to reinvent himself. He longer wanted to be the wild party boy who did romantic comedies. He wanted to act and be respected.

He rejected every script that came his way for 2 years. He didn’t work for 2 whole years and then, the good stuff he wanted started flooding in and he won an Oscar.

He reinvented. He changed his mindset. He rewrote his own damn script.

That’s the thing.

Change is available – always.

But not everyone wants to do the work.

Not everyone wants to pay for the transformation.

Is the change something they want?

Desperately?

Yes, often times it is, most desperately something they want.

But there’s a difference between wanting to change and intending to change.

In one, it would be nice but not worth the bother really.

In the second, come what may, you’re changing, you intend it. You follow through and make it happen, because it’s necessary to your being to express who you really are, not the half assed version that showed up because of circumstance but the you that you always were intended to be.

Fuzzy vs Sharp

It’s a bit like an eye test, and for those of you that have never needed one, I’m sure you can use your imagination. The optician puts the heavy flip lenses on you and tries out various lense strengths to see which ones are right for you. Some leave you with fuzzy out of focus vision, others are like lasers, suddenly everything is razor sharp.

What would life be like if you were razor sharp about who you were, who you wanted to be, what you were going to do?

In Mariah Carey’s autobiography, she states how she trained at a beauty school, but every evening late into the night and every weekend she worked on her music and when she got her chance she took it and walked away, course almost completed. Because beauty school wasn’t in her identity, singer songwriter was.

What are you prepared to walk away from?

What are you running towards?

It could be being a great teacher or a great artist, a fabulous wife, mother, husband, father.

It could be anything but it always involves being true to who you really are and expressing the truth of yourself in how you live.

For me, its writing every day. When I don’t I lose focus and meaning in life. And I want to write more. Stories, and adventures as well as psychology and personal development. That’s one part of the truth of who I am and when I don’t express it, it hurts me.

Same with stress and food. When I act as though it’s true for me to be a person who overeats, eats chocolate, and doesn’t exercise and stretch every day, I feel off-kilter. I feel off! Not who I’m supposed to be.

Self discipline is often looked upon as something derisory. Go on, indulge yourself, no-one will know.

You know.

Every time you fail to meet the standards you set for yourself, the standard you want to step up to, to live into being that person. Every time you don’t, it hurts.

Where does change start?

In the dissatisfaction, even in the not knowing there’s something else possible.

Get uncomfortable with who you currently are, how you’re currently showing up.

This isn’t who you came here to be.

Start allowing thoughts about what you don’t like to lead to thought of what you want.

Think about the possibilities. The endless, exciting, amazing possibilities for you to be you.

Who are you when you’re everything you want to be?

What does that look like? How does it feel?

What do you imagine life could be like if you were all that?

Today, grab a page and write in your journal….

‘If I was a blank slate and had no preconceptions, no beliefs or judgements about myself, life or the world, who would I be? How would I show up? What would I be doing? Who would I be with? ‘

Then ask, ‘what the next right thing for me to do to make it happen?’

You only ever have to do one thing.

The next thing.

And that’s it.

After that.

You do the next right thing.

Keep going.

One next right thing after another.

Following your heart.

Being led by your soul.

Change. It’s not a big deal when you want something. Because you’ll give up all the distractions and bs to make it happen.

Change. Let change become part of who you are. A change agent. Someone who changes. A person who leaves the unwanted dross behind and concentrates on the clear, the true, the unadulterated, unfiltered part of themselves.

Put in the time. The money. The effort.

If you really want it to happen.

Otherwise, stop blowing smoke. Wanting it and doing nothing for it.

If you were a blank slate, what would you choose?

Single minded focus on your dreams and goals regardless of whether or not they come true because just being so true to them makes the effort worth it?

Don’t let life just happen to you. Choose.

Decide what you want and go for it.

What is it they say…’shoot for the moon, even if you miss, you’ll land amongst the stars.’

Better than sitting hoping without ever daring to truly dream its possible.

Love,

Cynthia xx

PS. Below you’ll learn more about how I can support you in your change journey.

Think what would life be like if your thought processes were upgraded so you became unstoppable. What would life be like if you were able to step up and show up as that best ever version of you that you know you’re capable of?

Picture yourself thriving in life, developing an instinct for making the right choices, knowing in your gut you’re always choosing the correct thing for you.

Imagine any addictions, old anxiety and fear melting away, no longer influencing your thinking, your behaviour, your decisions. You are free to make better choices.

Think how it would feel achieving your goals with far less resistance,  whether it’s earning an extraordinary income, being a rockstar in your business or career, or excelling in your personal relationships. You can do it, you have no fears about any of it anymore.

See yourself fully present and grounded, living with total fulfillment and satisfaction with how life is unfolding for you, with zero regrets, as you fearlessly carve your own path forward.

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