There’s a massive difference between hoping everything’s going to work out vs actually believing everything truly is always working out for your best interests, no matter what happens.
When you hope, you leave room for disappointment.
I used to hope to win the lottery and every week, twice a week, I bought my Euromillions ticket and every time, I imagined exactly what I would do with that money if I won. Whether it was £4 million, £14 million, £40 million or even an incredible £140 million, I always had a plan for what I’d do, who I would tell, the first few purchases and gifts, the businesses I would set up and those I would invest in, the causes I would support.
And every week, twice a week, I was disappointed, sometimes disproportionately so, because I invested so much energy and hope into that one tiny, infinitesimal chance of changing my life that hinged on outside events of massive unlikeliness.
That’s what I was hoping for to change my life, – a complete random fluke, to take me to where I wanted to be instantly. Ridding me of all my fears and insecurities and giving me freedom and safety.
I think that was my biggest delusion, that winning the lottery would change me, make me the person I always wanted to be and solve all my problems. I didn’t realise that it would just give me a whole new set of problems and I’d be the same with the same insecurities and fears, everything would just play out in a different arena.
I remember listening to a podcast back then, James Altucher, one of my favourite writers and he was interviewing an American astronaut about his journey from ordinary kid in the suburbs to going into outer space for NASA.
And this guy was talking about how he had blown his chance to get into a fast track programme to get into NASA and so he had to do it the hard way, joining the airforce, moving around the world to wherever he was based, flying hundreds of missions and test flights before he finally got to where he wanted.
And he said something that really struck me and made me stop dreaming about lottery wins and start working on the things I could affect: myself and my work.
And I’m paraphrasing because I can’t remember his exact words but it was something about how we hardly ever jump from where we are to where we want to be. That there are millions of people sitting in their houses hoping to win the lottery and none of them but one will win and get the money.
He spoke on how we can move forward consistently, and as we keep moving forwards, going faster and faster if that feels right to us, we get there under our own effort. Taking aligned action, moving forward, depending on yourself, betting on yourself is more reliable a strategy than hoping for a miracle.
Waiting for that one big jump, that crazy, random chance happening that takes you all the way – that hardly ever happens.
And yet because it does occasionally happen,- the teenage girl that’s spotted at random at the mall and goes on to be a household name as a model, the metal detectorists who discover a trove of buried ancient gold, winning the lottery – we all want that and ignore the opportunity to make the changes we need ourselves.
Why do we want it so much? Because it’s easy, it doesn’t require anything of us. We don’t have to do the work and make the changes!
It’s time to be your own lucky number. Time to allow life to happen for you. Believe it is all working out perfectly for you and move forward.
Ask yourself smarter questions like ‘How can I do this? What’s the next step?’ You only ever need to take the next step, one step at a time as our astronaut friend suggested.
Keep going, every day. A step forward in any direction is better than standing still waiting for your big win. Do what you can today, take the tiniest step up into being your best self living your ideal life.
What can you do now to move yourself forward, to be closer to that ideal?
Do it. No more time wasted, no resistance. No, I can’t, I’m not, it feels scary.
Because someone’s going to win the lottery, and it’s probably not going to be you, but you can can win your life.
Every day be a little more that ideal you. Allow yourself to step up and step into that ideal life.
And maybe you’ll forget to buy lottery tickets because you’re too busy getting on with living life and making your dreams come true on your own terms.
Because you deserve to have the changes you want in your life and they won’t come from the outside.
Find the courage to do the right thing for you today.
PS. If you’ve been stuck, feeling like you’ve been living the same day over and over and its no fun anymore, if you’ve fought weight issues, depression, anxiety, addiction, or simply a feeling of general dissatisfaction with how your life is unfolding for you, and you feel like you’ve tried everything and nothing has worked. It’s natural to feel that a solution is almost impossible.
That’s part of what keeps the problem in place.
But real lasting change is possible.
Think how it would feel achieving your goals with far less resistance, whether it’s dropping excess weight, gaining freedom from depression and anxiety, being a rockstar in your business or career, or excelling in your personal relationships. You can do it, you have no fears about staying stuck and not moving forward anymore.
See yourself fully present and grounded, living with total fulfillment and satisfaction with how life is unfolding for you, with no regrets, as you carve your own path forward, moving forward always forward, no looking back .
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