Whilst on holiday this week, I’ve met some people who ask the perennial question, ‘What do you do?’
I’m tempted to say I’m a time travelling law officer chasing a renegade alien out to disrupt the Universal timeline but I always chicken out and never say it.
This time I said something like ‘I guide people into unleashing their best selves, releasing all the constraints they place on themselves and together we align their conscious, subconscious and superconscious mind so my clients create thinking and behaviour patterns that enable them to live as their best selves and feel satisfied with the direction their life is now taking and much happier with how they show up in their relationships, at work and for themselves.’
Bit of a mouthful, but okay. And what I say changes every time I have I answered this question as I more and more step away from the ‘I’m a hypnotherapist’ answer because it really doesn’t answer the question at all. And I don’t think that adequately describes what I do.
Anyway, this man looked at me like I had said I was a time travelling alien cop!
So, I tried again, ‘I enable people to let go of all the sh!t that’s been holding them back for far too long, to drop the pretending to be someone else to fit in and instead trust that they are enough just as themselves and they don’t need to do more than show up as all of themselves to be successful in life. And to forgive themselves for thinking they had to be anything other than themselves in the first place’
Again, there was a fairly blank glazed look to his eyes, I’d obviously hypnotised him with my answers.
‘Okay, imagine you’re Chicken Little, I help Chicken Little understand that not only is the sky NOT falling down but if he wanted he could fly into that beautiful blue sky.’
Chickens can’t fly, he said. Completely missing the analogy, nevermind that I was talking about a fairytale character.
‘Exactly, but what if Chicken Little was really an eagle who had been raised to think he’s a chicken. So, here’s this magnificent bird, looking up into the big blue sky, imagining, longing to float on those high thermal winds and then stretch his wings hunting his prey. But instead he continues scratching in the dirt because although he’s an eagle, because he was brought up, from he came out of his egg, with chickens, he thinks he’s a chicken, he thinks he can’t fly.’
‘And imagine he’s just an ordinary chicken, maybe he still wants to fly and my job is to help him find alternative ways to think to create whatever circumstances he needs to make that happen, like being a chicken version of the Wright Brothers.’
By this stage, the chicken analogy has been stretched to its limit and more than wearing thin,it’s transparent! But once I grab hold of something, I can be like a terrier and I’ll shake it til it’s done.
Although even I know that by the time I’m talking about a chicken developing aircraft models to fly, its done!
And the guy still didn’t seem to get it.
‘I help people realise their unfulfilled potential and forgive the pain of their past.’
‘Okay, so like a therapist.’
I just nodded, ‘Yes, kinda like a therapist.’
But sooo much more, only I added that in my head, not out loud. Nodded again and left him wondering why on earth I started talking about chickens, eagles and the sky falling down when all I had to say was that I was a therapist.
Because therapist doesn’t adequately describe what I do, that’s why I call my method HypnoTherapyCoaching, because it’s not just one thing and it’s not based on just one modality or method and more importantly its based around what you need at any given moment during our work together.
And maybe you were brought to believe, not that the sky was falling down but maybe that life was tough, that you were always going to face struggle and hard times and that you were never enough to live life on your terms.
The thing about how we think is that it’s learned. And we can change it. We can always change how we think.
That’s crucial. You were taught what to think, how to think about the world around you. And who taught you? Look at the lives of the people in your family and social circle, are they living happy, successful, fulfilled lives?
Do you think their way of thinking is good for you?
If we learned to think in ways that don’t served us, if we always see obstacles and barriers, we can change that so we see possibilities and opportunities.
“When you grow up you tend to get told the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much. Try to have a nice family, have fun, save a little money…
That’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact…
Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you and you can change it, you can inﬂuence it. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again.” Steve Jobs
Change starts within. Change how you think and you change your life, your world, everything. And loving yourself comes first.
When you change how you see yourself, the world also sees you differently. You’ll walk, talk, hold yourself differently.
It’s time to claim your space in this world instead of apologising for curling up into a ball and taking up the tiny amount you now fill. Stop hiding and come out and share yourself. The world needs you as you.
Don’t be another version of Chicken Little. Be the best version of you, that only you can be.
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Think what would life be like if your thought processes were upgraded so you became unstoppable. What would life be like if you were able to step up and show up as that best ever version of you that you know you’re capable of?
Picture yourself thriving in life, developing an instinct for making the right choices, knowing in your gut you’re always choosing the correct thing for you.
Imagine any addictions, old anxiety and fear melting away, no longer influencing your thinking, your behaviour, your decisions. You are free to make better choices.
Think how it would feel achieving your goals with far less resistance, whether it’s earning an extraordinary income, being a rockstar in your business or career, or excelling in your personal relationships. You can do it, you have no fears about any of it anymore.
See yourself fully present and grounded, living with total fulfillment and satisfaction with how life is unfolding for you, with zero regrets, as you fearlessly carve your own path forward.
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