We shall overcome…won’t we?

As I’m sure you’ve noticed there’s been a load of wartime rhetoric used during the Covid-19 crisis. I suppose that’s inevitable given our current PM’s obsession with Winston Churchill and England’s general preoccupation with the war.

Is that preoccupation because it was the last time English people can genuinely look to as evidence of being ‘world beating,’even though the war was not won single handedly but with many. many allies from around the world?  Similar to how the 1966 world cup is always referred back to too.

Similar to the Loyalist tradition in Northern Ireland, where I grew up, always marching to celebrate King Billy’s win at the Battle of the Boyne in 1690. Because what have they done since then but said No to everything.

Could this be because their insecurity in a changing world makes them cling to past glories?

That would be entirely plausible because it’s human nature isn’t it? To avoid the reality of the current situation by harking back to past triumphs that have taken on the tinge of myth and legend. Easier to look back than be here now.

As I said in another recent post, to change where we are we first have to take a realistic assessment of our current situation.

We have to turn and face up to the situation we’re in, and before we attempt to do anything we must feel all the feelings that come up. And feel them, not react to them, not lash out or act out or deny or push away or avoid. Feel everything.

The best way to do that, for me, is to become like an investigative reporter, asking yourself questions and allowing the answers to come up. Questions like…

What is this feeling? How would you describe it? If it had a colour and a shape, would would they be?

Where do you feel them in your body? How big or small are they? Do they move around or stay still?

What does the sensation feel like in your body? Tingly or pins and needles? Are they hot or cold? Does it change and intensify or dissolve away?

And once they leave, what is left behind in you, for you?

Is what’s left behind something you want to keep or get rid of?

Does it belong to you? If not, can you ask it to leave?

What age were you at the start of the feeling process and what age are you now?

Does this feeling remind you of another time, when you first felt like this?

As always, the first answer that pops into your head is usually the correct one, don’t overthink it. This is a subconscious enquiry and we don’t want your logical brain muscling in.

There are many ways to get rid of the emotional and energetic residue of what’s been left behind, active visualisation is one of my favorite tools, as is meditation and both fall into the category of self hypnosis.

Here’s a visualisation my hypnotherapist suggested to me recently and I love it.

You can also use it for bad habits you want to change, and any other thoughts or behaviours you want to let go off. And if the imagery I use is uncomfortable for you, use something else, you could be chasing foxes out of your chicken coop or escorting undesirables out of your club. Whatever works best for you. Always change things up til they work for you.

Imagine the things you want to get rid of are physically represented in your body by little imps and demons. You can see these harmful, annoying little impostors wherever you feel constrained or restricted or generally bad and of course they congregate at your heart especially. That’s where the juice is, where the biggest jolt of energy is when you hurt most.

And I want you in your mind and out loud if you want, to tell those things to get lost, to get TF out of your body, mind and soul. I actually shout, ‘Get out of my fucking house, get out and stay out!’ Because my body is my home, isn’t it?

And imagine them leaving however works for you. I see them, with suitcases packed marching past me out the front door and I slam it behind them finally saying something like ‘Good riddance! Don’t even think about turning around and coming back.’

I’m even using this for my eating habits. My BodyWork therapist recommended I go gluten free but due to the upheaval I’ve been experiencing recently, chocolate biscuits somehow made it back into the cupboard and into my mouth.

I now see my cravings marching out that front door and it slamming shut behind them.

There’s no way back in. The door is closed.

With the foxes scenario, you can chase them all out with flashlights and a gun and then repair your fence, create a fox proof henhouse. In the nightclub, see the drunks and the lechers and the assholes and your big, bruising, beautiful bouncers pulling through them through the club and throwing them all out the door and barring them from ever coming back.

And this is where discipline now comes in. Your job is to keep watch and make sure nothing sneaks back in, and if it does, rather than lazily accepting it, you march it straight back out the bloody door.

This works the same way as all thought discipline work: through repetition, effort and self discipline. You’re changing your hypnotic trance from one formed of passive acceptance of old habits and beliefs that you don’t want and were never yours to one that you create based on what you do want in life and building the identity and habits you want to live from.

You change your mind by changing how you think.

This is different to say using willpower to stay on a diet or stay off your addiction of choice. Because then you’re thinking to yourself something along the lines of, ‘I want it, I want it, I want it but I’m not going to have it. I’m not, I’m going to be good, I’m not going to have it no matter how much I want it.’

Can you see how that’s doomed to failure because you’re all the time reinforcing how much you want the thing, be it doughnuts or coke. Of course, sooner or later, you’re going to give in.

When you actively kick the thought or craving out of your mind and visualise the door slamming shut behind it. It’s out of your mind. You are clearing house and clearly demonstrating your new choice is for this thing not to be a part of your life.

You may, especially at the start and at times of stress have to repeat the kicking out exercise over and over but it’s a far more empowering, far more energetically dominant act than using willpower.

You are in control of your mind, in control of your thinking. You’ve taken control back from whatever it was that had hijacked you.

So, yes we can overcome. But only by realistically looking at where we’re at and deciding what needs to be changed and making those changes, by deciding what we want to change to, what needs to go to allow that to happen and kicking it out.

Then we look forward, to where we want to go and stay focused on that.

It all comes back to focus and determination. How much do you want it?

How much do you want your life to change?

The effort you put into focus and determination is what decides how much you and your life will change.

Keep bringing yourself back on track, keep kicking out your demons, keep focusing on where you want to go, who you want to be.

You can overcome when you want it badly enough. And you can make the future way better than your past, no matter how glorious it once seemed.

The best is yet to come.

Love,

Cynthia xx

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