For some people, this question never arises. Imagine that! To never to think to ask yourself, ‘Am I good enough’ no matter what they do, whether they’re going for a job interview, to ask someone out on a date or asking for help. No matter what they do, no matter what happens in their lives, they know their own intrinsic value and its unquestionable.
For others, we question our value all the f*cking time.
‘What makes me think I could be, do, have that thing I want and need in my life?’ What makes me think I’m worthwhile, important, good enough to simply receive it because I need it and want it?
Imagine never thinking like that. What a weight off that would be, right?
There are a slew of core beliefs that those of us who grew up in challenging circumstances face. They can manifest with different individual quirks such as believing we’re damaged somehow or a failure before we’ve even tried, that we’re unlovable or a disappointment to those who love us, that we’re insignificant, unimportant, worthless, always rejected and never good enough.
I remember doing Rhonda Britten’s Fearless Living Training Program way back in 2012 and she boiled what she called ‘core negative feelings’ to these ten:
- Feeling a Failure
- Being a Disappointment
- feeling an Outcast
- Damaged Goods
All of those are horrible right? And you may identify with more than one.
Let me tell you something, it’s not true.
You never need a reason to feel good enough, to be good enough, to be significant, lovable, worthy, capable, smart, adequate, belonging and perfect. *F*ck adequate – you’re brilliant!
You are. Right now, just as you are.
You don’t need to drop the weight, get fitter, be smarter, prettier, more handsome, have a better job, car, house, be married or with someone or be successful.
All you have to do is be you. All of you. Yes, you might want to make changes and that’s great but wherever you’re at right now doesn’t stop you from being a worthwhile human being.
Yes, you’ve made mistakes. We’ve all f*cked up from time to time and we all will do again. Doesn’t stop you being a worthwhile individual.
All you have to do is be you, all of you and you are enough.
Bring all of you to the table. You can do that.
I know these old beliefs have deep roots, I’ve been working on mine for over twenty years but I’ve come a long way and I know as you keep chopping those beliefs down every day by showing up and living your life as you deserve to, those roots wither away. And those old feelings show up less and less.
Self acceptance is the greatest gift you can give yourself. You are who you are and you are amazing.
You are enough.
End of story. Now go be yourself. All the parts of you that you were told were too much this or not enough that. Be all of it. The way only you can be.
You are the only you we’ve got and that makes us incredibly lucky to have you and gives you incredible value in this world. You’re a fricking unicorn! So much more than just enough.
PS. If you’ve suffered with something all your life, if you’ve fought weight issues, depression, anxiety, addiction, or simply a feeling of general dissatifaction with how your life is unfolding for you, and you feel like you’ve tried everything and nothing has worked. It’s natural to feel that a solution is almost impossible.
That’s part of what keeps the problem in place.
But real lasting change is possible.
Think how it would feel achieving your goals with far less resistance, whether it’s dropping excess weight, gaining freedom from depression and anxiety, being a rockstar in your business or career, or excelling in your personal relationships. You can do it, you have no fears about staying stuck and not moving forward anymore.
See yourself fully present and grounded, living with total fulfillment and satisfaction with how life is unfolding for you, with no regrets, as you carve your own path forward, moving forward always forward, no looking back .
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