That you haven’t shaped up in whatever way you feel you need to, be it in health, fitness, money, career, emotional and mental health, relationships?
There’s so many different ways we f*ck up our lives and we do it for years and years and yet as soon as we get sick from it all, we want instant change.
And there you are a new creation, full of the confidence, determination, self discipline, having all inner resources you need to flow into your ideal life, creating it all easily and effortlessly, just as you’ve seen other people do a million times before.
Ha! Bursting bubble moment! Here is no ‘hey presto!’ moment, no magic wand or magic beans or magic pills.
How do we get to be, to do, to have what we want to be, do and have? Without pretense, without masks, without numbing or hiding from pain and confusion?
How do we transcend the pain?
Because the wounds were real, no getting away from that but what hurts us most was the meaning we attached to those wounds. And that message is something we made up ourselves and its not necessarily true.
Its time to move on and let go.
In my journal today I asked myself the question, ‘Where am I stuck?’ and the usual things reared their head, receiving money, receiving love, being healthy.
Next question – ‘Why am I stopping myself from receiving these things?’ Because after all, health, wealth and love are birthrights.
And my answer from my subconscious, I love subconscious journal writing, it’s a great way to get to the truth of what’s going on internally. The answer came back that I am stopping myself from receiving the things I want in life because I don’t deserve them, I’m not worthy, not good enough.
Yes, even with all I know about the mind, the emotions and how to optimise our thinking I still have beliefs that hold me back.
Next question – ‘Is that true?’ No, of course its not true. I deserve love, wealth, health, I deserve everything I want.’
Final question – ‘What do I need to do to release the blocks?’
Love myself. Love myself every day, all day. Fall completely in love with myself. Tell myself I love myself, show myself how much I love myself every day.
I am worthy of love. It all starts within, whatever change you want to make and I can easily state that it all starts with loving yourself first.
I love myself a little more everyday. I am worthy of love, and I open my heart to the Universe because love is my birthright. Wealth is my birthright. Health is my birthright and I receive it all now.
I know you want practical how to steps to improve your mental and emotional health. I’m telling you now this is the most important thing you can do and if it makes you feel uncomfortable then you need it even more.
Love yourself. Tell yourself that morning noon and night, ‘I love myself, I love myself, I love myself.’
Look in the mirror, meet your eyes in your reflection and say, ‘I see you, I love you.’ And you may hear an echo in your head, ‘I love you too.’
Self love, self acceptance is everything. All you want in life flows from that. Loving yourself comes first.
Always has done, always will.
And maybe because you grew up in a home that belittled you, that made you feel ‘not good enough,’ that somehow you weren’t worthy of love because your parents didn’t express love, didn’t show you love, so you never saw it, never knew that it was for you too.
Who has not loved you the way you needed them to love you? Who has most broken your heart?
You never learned that you had every right to be loved as much as the most pampered, beloved child in your neighbourhood.
Well, you do. I don’t care what age you are now, I want you to make up for that lack now by giving love, approval, appreciation and kindness to yourself starting today and doing it every day.
We can’t control what other people do but we can fix things in our own heart and mind.
I’m doing it too. Let’s do it together.
Love on yourself like you are your own first crush.
Ask yourself, ‘What can I do to show myself love today?’
It may be as simple as washing and styling your hair, or putting on a load of washing, or sitting in nature.
It will usually be something simple, something its easy to brush off and say I’ll do it later or tomorrow and then never.
Do whatever you’re guided to and do it it today.
It will make you feel good, I promise and keep loving on yourself, keep telling yourself, ‘I love you.’
Do small acts of kindness for yourself and then give yourself appreciation for having done so.
Imagine how amazing you’ll feel after 30 days of self love. Check in with me and let me know how you’re doing.
PS. Please like, comment and share below is this message connected with you. I love to hear how my work lands with people. And also, stop messing around! If you’re reading this, you need me. Email or message me to see how best we can work together to give you what you need. It might be a list of free resources I offer, it might be a program or course that’s not too expensive or you might want to jump right in and fully commit to yourself with a personal 1:1 hypnotherapycoaching program. Whatever you need, I’ll work with you to guide you to gaining it all. That’s a promise xx