Why? Why you, right?
So many of us have a hole inside of us, and many of us aren’t even aware its there.
We look outside, thinking that’s where the damage is, but nope, its inside of us.
And we’re aware of needing something, that something is missing, a piece of us is torn out, there’s something we’re missing.
And we start to think the lack is us, and it starts driving us crazy.
And we look outside ourselves to plug the gap, because we’ve been taught we are the thing lacking so how could the answer be inside of us?
We shop to fill it up, and the clothes stay on hangers with the labels still attached, or in the bag, never even pulled out to put away because we never really wanted or needed them and they never help. No matter how much we buy, it never helps and yet, still we buy more.
We eat to fill it, sugar, cakes, biscuits, fried food, salty food. Never fruit or vegetables, no just the stuff that harms us, gives us an artificial chemical boost, a quick feel good hit and then we drop again and eat more but it’s never enough and so we keep eating.
And we drink, do drugs, gamble, engage in risky, self-endangering behaviour, drive cars too fast, walk down dark streets or through poorly lit car parks and we do ourselves harm and run and run and run but there’s no escaping that emptiness inside, the void that follows us around.
I’ve tried many things to fill that hole inside of me and I know there’s only one thing that will do it and yet I still try everything else first, because it’s hard to gaze into the void, to see the darkness, the aloneness, to feel the wrongness that’s there and waiting for me.
So we do everything to avoid, to deny, to suppress.
Until the day that all gets to be too much and we’re too tired, too hurt, too damn angry to run anymore and the things we used to avoid and deny and suppress have done so much damage that we’ve started to think they’re the problem when we once thought they were our solution.
They are neither problem nor solution.
They are simply distractions.
And the hold inside, the void, the lack waits, waits for us to finally stop running and face it and say, ‘Why me?’
‘Why did it have to happen to me? Why could I not have the love, the kindness, the safety, the care that every child, every baby should know from the start of its life? Why did I suffer? Why did I have so much pain inflicted on me? Why did I have to suffer so much? I was a child. Why me?
And the void, the hole, the lack, the darkness answers, ‘Why not you?’
Nothing personal. It’s just what happened. And if not you, then it would have been someone else.
And maybe it’s because you’re strong, because you’re a survivor or because you just happened to be the one who was in pain’s way.
And now its up to you.
Are you going to let that random chance of birth and circumstance dictate whether or not you become a person of integrity and decency, whether or not you live a life that matters?
Because even when you’re doing great work, you don’t see the value of it, the value of you.
Its time to see the true value of who you are and get to making your impact on this world.
When you’ve survived and survived and survived and are fucking tired of it and want more but have no idea how to get past the past, to get over all the stuff, to stop avoidance and resistance. What can you do differently?
What can you do right now?
When you’re so stuck you see no way out.
What are you able to do, in even the worst circumstances?
I can tell you. But you’re probably going to hate it,
Because its sounds too simple. Way too simple to be effective.
But simple has strength and power and is easy to remember.
Here’s what you do:
Think DIFFERENTLY about you.
Think differently about who you are and what you’re capable of.
Because you are capable or anything and everything when you think you are.
Think of yourself as the hero of your own story and start writing the redemption chapters. Or visualise your life as a movie and you’re in the first act, where the hero is down and out, now direct yourself into the biggest comeback of all time.
Stop thinking about the person you became through your reaction to pain and fear, instead think of becoming the person you always were but hid away because you thought they couldn’t survive the world you were born into.
That world is different now, because you are different. Once you notice it and decide its not true, it stops existing for you. Instead, focus on the world you love to live in, the person you want to be,
Allow yourself to see it can be different NOW, because of a thought.
Give yourself the gift of thinking differently.
Believe you can. Because you can.
That’s reason enough to do it. And a great place for you to start.
PS. Think what would life be like if your thought processes were upgraded so you became unstoppable. What would life be like if you were able to step up and show up as that best ever version of you that you know you’re capable of?
Picture yourself thriving in life, developing an instinct for making the right choices, knowing in your gut you’re always choosing the correct thing for you.
Imagine any addictions, old anxiety and fear melting away, no longer influencing your thinking, your behaviour, your decisions. You are free to make better choices.
Think how it would feel achieving your goals with far less resistance, whether it’s earning an extraordinary income, being a rockstar in your business or career, or excelling in your personal relationships. You can do it, you have no fears about any of it anymore.
See yourself fully present and grounded, living with total fulfillment and satisfaction with how life is unfolding for you, with zero regrets, as you fearlessly carve your own path forward.
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