Yeah, that’s an eye catching title, isn’t it?
Save lives just by changing how we think?
I know this to be true.
Because I saved my own. Twice now.
Clients and friends have saved their lives too.
All by changing how they think.
It really is that simple.
And it really is hard too.
Because we’re not used to controlling what we think about. We just think thoughts show up completely at random and we have no power over them at all. I say ‘Pink elephant’ and what do you think about?
You think about buying a new car and take one for a test drive and all of a sudden you’re seeing that make and model everywhere. Totally random. Right?
It’s not random, it’s how the brain works.
And we can take control, we do have power over it and we can insert the thoughts we want to think, create the feelings and emotions we want to experience and when we do, we change, our lives change.
Earlier this week, I had a thought. A horrible thought. A thought I thought I had conquered and vanquished several years ago.
After several weeks of extreme stress, plus the pressure of stepping up to a new level of visibility in my business, my childhood pattern of hiding and avoidance triggered one of the worst thoughts a person can experience. The idea that their life doesn’t matter and who would even notice if they weren’t here.
Yeah, that thought. I’d had the same thing eight years ago, although in much greater depth of emotion and with striking detail about the how.
There was a part of me in so much pain, she wanted to leave. And I was feeling that pain. Throughout my mind and spirit. It was overwhelming.
And yet, I knew I could change it. I forgot I could for a while and was swamped by waves of pain. But then, I did remember and I started using my power over my thoughts. The power that RWID gave me.
I have written and spoken about RWID many times. And in my last post about it I went into great technical detail about how this gives you the power to control your thoughts.
Today, I want to describe how that feels.
Because when you’re that deep in pain, when you’re despairing that life will work out for you, when you can’t see a way out or hope for the future, how the fuck do you combat that?
That level of pain is overwhelming and a grim place to be in.
And yet you start. You have to. You start with the words that give you glimmers of hope, glimpses of a future that you want to live. You start with love.
Because of course, it always starts with love. Love for yourself. Love for the part of you in pain and the other parts who are working so hard to bring that future into being regardless of how you feel elsewhere.
How do you start to feel love?
Say the word, over and over. Say ‘I love myself’ over and over. And keep on saying it, all day, every day.
It’s the first word in my mantra. LOVE.
Second is home. Because this is what I’m working toward, a beautiful home in a beautiful place with woods, a stream or a river nearby, mountains and a glorious garden with space for the dogs. I see myself living there, I know in my bones this place is for me. HOME.
My third word is wealth. Ha, some of you might say, what a greedy, self serving word. Maybe. Wealth to me represents safety, and whilst I could have used that word, I also want wealth because I want to have the things I want, nice clothes, shoes, a good car, able to buy what I need when I need it. Wealth equals safety to me and I’m not ashamed to want it. WEALTH.
My fourth word is success. Again, some might say its a shallow thing to want, and maybe so. Success to me represents freedom, the more successful I am, the more money I have to be able to do the things I want to do, whatever they are, whenever I want to do them. The more successful I am, the more people I reach to share my message and spread it to everyone who needs it. I’m not embarrassed by wanting to be successful. I’d be more embarrassed if I didn’t want it. SUCCESS.
My fifth word is Amelia. She represents family and love to me. Previously both Reilly and Amelia’s names were in my Mantra but now its just my girl. And she’s my anchor, my companion and my responsibility. AMELIA.
My sixth word is faith. I believe that everything always works out for the best of everyone involved, I believe whatever I am guided to is within my capability to do, I can create miracles. I am a fucking miracle. And I have faith that I am guided by soul, that the Creative Source of the Universe that is within us all guides me every step of my way. FAITH.
And so you have your mantra, five or six words that can create a chink in the wall of doom that has been built around you.
And as you repeat it, over and over, the chink widens, it gets bigger and whole damn sections of the fucking wall of doom start to fall.
And it works. Keep on using it, keep on saying your words. At first you might not feel that different, you might even feel silly or annoyed. That’s fucking great! Because feeling silly or annoyed is better than being despairing.
And you keep on saying it and you start to feel a glimmer of excitement or joy or love or just relief from the relentless doom and pain.
And you keep on saying it, and now, several days after the crisis, when I say my mantra I feel the true meaning each word has for me. Instead of saying it over and over as fast as possible to build a barrier between me and my pain. I now am able to say the words slowly, feeling the emotions they arouse rise up within me and wash away the doom and pain.
And when you reach a balance, an equilibrium within, you’re able to reach out to that part of you that was hurting so bad, that is still hurting and ask what it needs from you to feel safe, to feel better about what you’re doing in life.
For me, I couldn’t do much about the other people in my home but I could and did surrender my stress and worry and pain over it and hand it over to Source. And when I did, I got lighter, my interactions at home were less defensive and so everyone’s hackles went down. There’s an uneasy peace which is much better than the cold war we were all enduring.
And I slowed down the steps I was taking in my business. I checked in and realised this same thing always happens when I move too fast. I scare the child within who’s strategy for staying safe is to hide and isolate.
Last time I was moving this fast in my business, I had several massive asthma attacks and was sidelined for almost a year. I have history with getting subconscious help in hiding out.
I’m checking in, talking to myself about what I’m doing, why I’m doing it, how the results will benefit all parts of me.
And I’m still saying my mantra. This morning, walking home with Amelia after feeding the swans, I was repeating my six words and I was swept up in a glorious feeling of warmth, gratitude and love. There was so much goodness in the wave of emotion, it felt so good after all the pain I’d been feeling for weeks, I almost cried in relief, with joy.
Six words. Saved my life.
How you think creates the life you lead.
You are not at the mercy of your thoughts, unless you allow it to be so.
You can have power over your thoughts. You simply have to learn how to use it and make the effort to do so.
I did say it wasn’t easy. You’re going against your habitual patterns of thought and behavior.
But can you do it?
Will it change you?
Will you do it?
I don’t know, do you?
Because there’s another word that’s not part of the mantra but is equally important. COMMIT.
You must commit to the process. You must commit to following through and saying your mantra every day, throughout the day. You must commit to living your best life as you, all of you. Every single part of you.
Your strength is within you. It always has been. Start using it. By loving yourself.
This is the most important thing you can do; commit to loving yourself.
That changes everything. Forever.
It changes you. Always.
Trust me. I know.
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Think what would life be like if your thought processes were upgraded so you became unstoppable. What would life be like if you were able to step up and show up as that best ever version of you that you know you’re capable of?
Picture yourself thriving in life, developing an instinct for making the right choices, knowing in your gut you’re always choosing the correct thing for you.
Imagine any addictions, old anxiety and fear melting away, no longer influencing your thinking, your behaviour, your decisions. You are free to make better choices.
Think how it would feel achieving your goals with far less resistance, knowing you can melt resistance with the power and focus of your attention. You can do it, you have no fears about any of it anymore.
See yourself fully present and grounded, living with fulfillment and satisfaction with how life is unfolding for you, with zero regrets, able to handle anything that comes up as you fearlessly carve your own path forward.
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